Dating busiess

     Lately,  I've been thinking of the whole start dating again situation, specially because I haven't made it to the second date in... what? 6 months? And somehow I feel like i'm not alone. Datig is a bitch! First dates are a puzzle with so many missig pieces that by the time you've figured out what went wrong you've invested too many emotions in a lost cause. How the hell are you supposed to know if the date should end with a kiss or if it's just one of those if-was-nice-to-meet-you kinda go outs? And don't get me started in those awkward moments when you honestly have no idea if it is a date or not. Please, people, that I'm-just-lookig-for-friends shit just makes it worse!
      After, well, let's say 4 years of dating people of all kinds, I've figured out some things that work both ways. First, if one of the "daters" checks their phoe more than two times or there are more than 3 awkward pauses, it's a disaster and you better get the hell out of there before (s)he comes up with a lame excuse to ditch you. Second, if you survive one of the tricky sujects like life goals, politics or reading interests, you may be onto somethign, although try not to keep your hopes up, there are times when people is a lot like you, but just not for you. Third, if one of the daters proposes to have a sort of second part of the date somewhere else, you're doing just fine and it is indeed your turn to make the next move.
      And... that's it. In 4 years that's all I've figure out so far. I still have not a clue on why the other person would say: "Sure! We should totally do it again" and not reply any of your texts... like ever again. Although I can't help it but wonder, do I do it too when a date in whom i have no interest on asks me out on a second date? What's the power of karma in dating? Where exactly is the line between politeness and being a bitch by keeping the poor guy's hopes up? Wouldn't it ease things to speak our minds the whole time risking not having a second date?


Does anyone motion the idea of just saying: "Honestly, I'm not a dating material, we had a great time and I can't help it but wonder how the two of us are in bed. Wanna give it a try?". I'm just saying! Somehow we gotta take all the pressure away.

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